principle of "ALLOWING"

to permit, to let happen, to take account for

FEARS:

* may get hurt
* doormat
* leads to more work
* they should get over it

What does it look like when I am doing it? (rewards)

* accepting
* friendly
* helpful
* tolerant
* God's Will

What does it look like when I am not doing it? (costs)

* rigid
* not helpful
* intolerant
* unfriendly
*

What are the benefits?

* patience
* larger world view
* respect
* friendship
*

What is the truth?

* when I allow things go well

What is the illusion?

* allowing is weakness