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The most destructive habit......................Worry

The greatest Joy...............................Giving

The greatest loss................Loss of self-respect

The most satisfying work...............Helping others

I got this from Gus.

Just Say No to Aging?

A provocative new book from a Harvard psychologist suggests that changing how we think about our age and health can have dramatic physical benefits.

One day the Buddha was sitting in the wood with thirty or forty monks. They had an excellent lunch and they were enjoying the company of each other. There was a farmer passing by and the farmer was very unhappy. He asked the Buddha and the monks whether they had seen his cows passing by. The Buddha said they had not seen any cows passing by.

For those of you that I have told that I invented paypal here is the proof.

When I start to distinguish the differences between caring and loving with people they at first think they are the same thing. The programming that we received was that our parents were punishing us because they loved us. "This will hurt me more than it will you" never really jived with me as a child. We were taught that caring was showing love.

Caring – to care – in all of its forms has always occurred to you – as it did me for most of my life – as something worthy of your consideration, your time, your efforts & most, if not all, of your resources.

For you, caring has value and is at the source of good will, warm fuzzy feelings and cute little Teddy Bears with their own line of merchandise and Saturday morning cartoon show.

To care is demonstrated in heart-shaped candy boxes and sweet, chalky treats with catchy little slogans emblazoned upon their faces, not to mention all those Shoebox Greetings and Hallmark cards you've used to spread good cheer throughout the years because…you care.

Ever since you first became aware of yourself, the world you know has taught you that caring about all people, things & circumstances is not only something that you should do, it is also something that is always good to do for you and everyone else. And, the absence of it…is bad.

Not caring causes people to relate to you as caddy, cold, heartless and consider you to be a bad person for not doing so. For not caring in certain circumstances, some might even relate to you as a sociopath.

Well... try this...

I'm about to rob you; neither with gun nor threat of harm – unless you regard as “harm” being delivered from your incessant inclination toward debilitating levels of worry and concern. Stay with me for a few moments. Give up your addictions to “the way things are” and walk an unusual path for a while that might just leave you with a whole new perspective on something that’s been coloring your world in a way you would not have allowed had you ever been given a choice. The fact is…you weren’t ever given a choice at all.

You, I, they and them have all inherited a way of thinking, acting, believing and being that’s more than just a few thousand years old. And…it’s killing you. The nastiest part of this evil little scenario as it has unfolded in your life is that you invited the perpetrator into the living room of your world, sat it comfortably down and have been catering to it hand and foot ever since. The time has come to evict this malevolent tenant… this wolf dressed in sheep’s clothing.