principle of "CARRY"

to pass on, to take from one to another

FEARS:

* I could be wrong
* too much work
* burden and responsibility

What does it look like when I am doing it? (rewards)

* helps me
* planting seeds
* doing the work, not results
* productive

What does it look like when I am not doing it? (costs)

* lack of growth
* relapse mode
* unhelpful
* lazy
* stubborn

What are the benefits?

* sense of accomplishment
* helping others
* sobriety

What is the truth?

* carrying is good for me

What is the illusion?

* they can do it themselves