The Principle of "HARM"

injure, damage, hurt, insult

FEARS:

* I will be harmed in return
* this hurts
* may last a long time

What does it look like when I am doing it? (rewards)

* growth
* honest self appraisal

What does it look like when I am not doing it? (costs)

* denial
* conflicts

What are the benefits?

* better relationships
* less hurt
* tolerance

What is the truth?

* I cause harm to my self and others

What is the illusion?

* I don't harm anybody, noone can harm me